The Story of You
Everything that you have ever experienced in your life has impacted your thoughts, memories, beliefs, and opinions about who you are.
Most people think that if you have had pleasant experiences, then you will automatically have an easier, more privileged, and generally happier life. That if you have been met with life challenges or adversity you will be more likely to live in a state of despair, anxiety, or experience a lack of happiness. But this view fails to account for the opportunity for personal growth which comes hand in hand with life challenges. Positive change comes more easily through adversity than it does through a life of privilege and ease. There is more room for growth, a greater ability to appreciate the thing that you feel is lacking, whether it be love, support, wealth, or any other aspect of life.
In our society, we often get caught up in the past. We relive past hurts over and over again. We bring up all the things that did not go according to how we think they should have been. We talk for hours about how we were aggrieved, how things didn't go our way, why we have good reason to be upset. We forget the one hundred good things, and focus only on the bad. Reliving our pain, and reinforcing the fact that it is part of who we are.
The past is not happening now, and the future has not arrived. By failing to experience what is happening in this moment, we take the joy out of the simple things in life. We do not notice the birds singing, the flowers at the side of the road, or the smile that someone gives you as they walk past. Our mind is constantly elsewhere, caught up in our own story of our life - worrying, replaying events, and caught up in anxiety about a possible future, which may never happen. If we want it to change, it can be different.