Do these things sound familiar?
You want to get a better job or move into a new career, but you just feel stuck where you are
You keep attracting people into your life who are toxic - they leave you feeling drained and exhausted
You feel overwhelmed because you have so much going on in your life, but all of it is important
Your partner doesn't seem like a good match for you any more, but you don't know if you should just try harder
You want to improve your diet, or start exercising, but you don't seem to get around to it
You are struggling with addictive behaviour patterns, but you are not sure why, and you don't seem able to stop
You want to make a difference in the world, but you feel tired all the time...
If you relate to any of these things, then coaching can help you to unlock the subconscious patterns and beliefs which are keeping you stuck in a life that doesn't work for you.
How You Relate to the World Affects Your Health and Well-Being
- Person viewed as a unified being who contains inextricably linked aspects; mind, body, emotions and spirit
- Individual is also linked to their environment and shares a two-way, constant, interaction with it through thoughts, emotions, and actions
- Relationships with other people and situations hold great importance because of the inter-dependent nature of existence, and it's effects upon wellness
- It is not viable to experience thoughts, emotions, or actions, without also involving other body systems
- Lifestyle factors like nutrition, exercise and relaxation hold greater significance because of their impact upon the entire person, and their preventative actions on developing ill health
- Higher value on subjective experience and spiritual component, with less requirement for external validation
- Person viewed as comprising of separate substances: mind, body, and systems, which are treated as individual speciality areas for healthcare
- Less value placed upon the extent to which body systems are part of an entire, whole, human being, resulting in a reductionist approach to health
- Materialist-based system which views people as separate physical individuals, living within a dualist world
- Since physical health is deemed as existing independently, experiences like thought, interaction with environment, and emotional have lower value rating
- Excellent at resolving physical-based acute health issues, but lower success with recovery from chronic illness
- Priority on scientific theory and empirical data collection, with lower value on self responsibility, subjective experience, personal and spiritual connection
Developing Insight and Wisdom Can Help You to:
Recognise and change your thoughts, feelings and beliefs so you can release stress and anxiety
Move you beyond being stuck, and reach your personal life goals -improve your finances, career, relationships
Help you to let go of old patterns of behaviour and align with your highest spiritual purpose
Attract healthy, supportive and loving relationships into your life
Learn how to improve your levels of resilience when dealing with difficult situations
Develop practical skills like confidence, awareness, forgiveness and acceptance
Understand the true nature of your mind and emotions, and allow you to master your life
The 4 Elements of Health
Troublesome thoughts are perhaps the most common source of problems when it comes to well-being. Fear-based thinking may arise from an overactive mind, or can be triggered by certain life situations and previous trauma. If we lack clarity of mind we can find ourselves in unhelpful behaviour patterns. Our thoughts influence our happiness and success in life, and the extent to which we can overcome limiting beliefs. Mindful awareness or meditation can be highly beneficial for understanding and calming the mind.
Physical ailments like pain, fatigue, digestive or cardiovascular problems can cause a great deal of suffering for anyone who experiences them. If symptoms are severe, they can affect mobility, work, relationships, mental and emotional wellness as well. Fortunately, there are multiple ways of controlling symptoms; the use of therapies such as massage or acupuncture can help with pain and mobility. Nutritional therapies can calm inflammatory disorders, IBS, pain and fatigue. Yoga or similar therapies can help with relaxation, mobility, and energy levels.
Emotions can seem uncontrollable when we are in the midst of a particularly challenging life situation, or dealing with a difficult person. We can begin to change our relationship and understanding of our emotions by examining them in more detail, learning to recognise why reactions occur, and allowing stored emotional tension to be fully released over a period of time. The nature of emotions is that they contain sensations or feelings in the body, combined with specific thought patterns. With this insight comes emotional freedom.
There is no single definition of spirituality; each one of us creates our own interpretation of meaning according to our life experience, beliefs and values. So when we discuss spiritual development, it is important to focus on what this means for you, rather than attempting to find a particular external experience. Spiritual wellness includes a wide range of things for different people; it can refer to understanding the deeper nature of life, who we are, our life purpose, and connection to the world around us.
How to Improve Your Life with One-to-One Coaching
So, considering that health and well-being is influenced by all of our life experiences, not only physical issues, here are a few areas which can improve how you experience life:
- Changing how you interpret and react to the experiences of your life
- Learning how to develop healthy relationships: partner, family, friends, work colleagues
- Releasing past trauma or stress, and establishing new coping skills
- Developing your level of self-awareness and insight
- Aligning your work and career with your life purpose
- Practising healthy lifestyle: diet, exercise, social activity, health-promoting behaviours
- Becoming authentic, and aligning with your core beliefs and values
- Developing your ability to deal with difficult situations; conflict, assertiveness, life skills
- Resolving spiritual seeking: insight, wisdom and awakening
- Living your life to its fullest potential
For each of these areas, and any others that you identify as problematic, it can be helpful to reflect upon their origins, how they are impacting your life, and to identify what steps you need to take in order to improve your current experience. One one the most common problems in developing self-awareness is that as we grow up, whatever we experience in life is completely normal to us. Whilst we know theoretically what we would like to improve in our lives, we don't quite manage to achieve it. This is usually because we have hidden patterns of thoughts or behaviour which are preventing our success. Coaching can be particularly helpful with this, and it also provides personal support, clarity, insight, focus and practical guidance.
One-to-One Consultations for Personal Development
If you want to change a specific area of your life, then these consultation programmes would be a good choice.
An individual 1.5 hour consultation: If you need to make a decision about your life, and you need support or guidance to get clear on your values and goals, then an individual consultation is probably best suited for you.
Ruby Programme: Or if you want to make a specific life change, like change your dietary habits, learn how to be more assertive, or to get through a difficult time in your life, then a series of 3 sessions is recommended. If you have a consultation every 2 weeks, then it gives you the momentum and support that you need for long-lasting change. Or you can use your 3 sessions at weekly or monthly intervals if this fits in better with your situation.